👥 Our Relationship
A safe, intimate, and empowering space for you to deepen your presence and access greater clarity and authenticity. Together, we’ll cultivate a deeper capacity for self-trust, empowered action, and vulnerability.
Our relationships are where many of us received our wounding. This nurturing relationship, beyond the direct work we do, contributes to healing and transformation.
🫙 The Developmental Container
Intentions, inquiry, challenges, or desires that are most alive for you right now. These will plant the initial seeds of our work together, and will likely evolve and unfold as you do. It may take the form of the question “What is most important to me right now?”, “What’s getting in the way?”
🧘🏻 The Practice
The practice blends Western psychology and Eastern spiritual/wisdom traditions. It will consist of parts work, somatic processing, imaginal work, and gentle emotional inquiry.
More specifically, I’ll draw from Aletheia, Hakomi, Active Imagination, and VIEW.
👋🏻 Check-In (5-10 minutes): We explore what’s alive for you right now and if there’s anything you’d like to bring into coaching.
♨️ Dropping-In (~5 minutes): We’ll drop in with a grounding practice, establishing a presence anchor for our conversation.
🌀 Unfolding (35-40 minutes): From a place of presence, we’ll begin the unfolding journey of co-exploration and self-study.
🪞 Reflection (~5 minutes): We’ll check-in with what’s changed since we started — there may be new insights and questions that have arisen.
🔎 Post-session Integration: An integration activity will be offered based on what came up in our conversation. It may be a question to journal on, a somatic exercise, or a poem to engage with (among other possibilities). By dropping into a deep state, we open the memory reconsolidation window for ~5 hours, which allow for rewiring of our neural pathways. Practices can help you embody the deeper sense of being you just inhabited, leading to long-term transformation.
✏️ The Work:
Ron Kurtz, one of the primary originators of Hakomi, on the work:
I give prospective clients a document that makes clear what will be expected of them. It says in part: This method is not about talking out your problems. There won’t be long, speculative conversations about your troubles or your history. This method is designed to assist you in studying the processes that automatically create and maintain the person you have become. It is a method of assisted self-study. It requires that you enter into short periods of time where you become calm and centered enough to observe your own reactions, as if you were observing the behavior of another person, a state called mindfulness. The therapist assists your self-study by creating “little experiments” while you are in mindfulness. These experiments are always nonviolent and basically are designed to evoke reactions that will be reflections of the habits and beliefs that make you who you are. The implicit beliefs and relationship habits with which you meet the world automatically shape your present behavior. The process works best: